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Were you in a relationship that made you feel happy, secure, and loved? Did you lose that relationship? We want to help you get back your ex in a way that not only causes them to become attracted to you again, but also, ensures the relationship is going to last this time.
Why Did You Break Up?
The first step you need to take to get your ex back is to stop and reflect on why the break up occurred in the first place. The answers that you find will help you move forward with him or her in a different way that is headed towards success, not another failure.
The reason for this is that you will remove the traits that caused the hurt, anger, and other negative feelings in the relationship, and you will replace them with new, healthier traits. In addition, you will keep the parts of you that already contributed in a healthy way to the relationship.
There is a requirement to this: You need to be honest! If you pretend as if your ex is the one that had problems and you were completely innocent in the relationship, then you will be lying to yourself. When you are dishonest with yourself, you will not be able to fix the issues that were in the relationship and, therefore, they will reappear when you get back your ex.
For example, if your ex lied to you or cheated on you, then you may have a hard time finding faults in yourself. However, the truth is that you may have let other small incidents go by without confronting your partner and that led him or her to believe that they could get away with doing these things to you.
In this case, you may need to work on your communication skills so that you can tackle issues when they happen, which will in turn stop worse things from happening. This is just one example of many, but the point is that you need to find how your contributed to the relationship break up, and you need to be brutally honest.
What To Do With The Information You Uncover
First, you need to fix your own issues. You cannot demand that your ex fixes his or her issues at this point, because you are not in a relationship and they would likely just hang up the phone in anger. (To be honest you have probably pointed out there faults enough, and they will not listen to it anymore.)
Therefore, you need to do some serious personal development. For instance, if you find out that your communication skills are lacking, then you need to learn how to communicate more effectively with people both publicly and intimately.
This personal development quest will not just help you in your relationship (although it will have a huge impact on your future relationship), but it will also help you to become happier in life. It is hard not to grow, learn and become more aware without feeling better about yourself and the world around you.
Your personal development may take a while, but it is important that you completely fix any issues that you have before you move on to the next step. Think of it this way: It may take a few weeks to become a different, better person in a relationship, but it will help you get back your ex and have a happy, healthy relationship for the rest of your life. A few weeks are definitely worth the rest of your life.
If you are worried about your ex getting into a relationship during this time, the let me put your mind at ease. Most people do not jump back into a relationship quickly. Instead, they take some time to recover from the break up (which can take weeks to months) and they get busy creating a new life for themselves.
In addition, even if they do date, the chances of the relationship lasting are nil. Moreover, even if the relationship lasts, it takes months to build a solid foundation that will lead to a committed relationship that will be stronger than what you had. Therefore, you have some time to get back your ex, no matter how rushed you feel.
Kicking Off Your NEW Relationship With Your Ex
Once you have become someone different, someone more able to have a healthy relationship, you can take the next step and start a NEW relationship with your ex.
Your ex has a vision of you as the person he or she dated before, but you have a new ‘you’ to show your ex. Make a date to get together with your ex for coffee so you can show them the new and improved you.
The chances are good that they still have very strong feelings for you and do not need much ‘push’ to bring you back into their life, so all you need to do is show him or her that all the negative qualities about you have disappeared, and all the good qualities about you are still alive and well.
You don’t have to try to get back your ex on the first meeting. Instead, you can just enjoy each other’s company. Make sure that there is lots of laughter in your first meeting. This will cause endorphins (hormones) to be released. Endorphins give you a natural high, and your ex will associate that natural high with meeting you (which is a great thing!)
During the first meeting, your ex will make one of two decisions: They will either want you back or they will not want you back. The better you make them feel (releasing endorphins) the better the chances are that they will want you back.
After the first meeting, you can start to see each other more and talk to each more, just as you did when you first started dating. In a way, you are starting to get to know each other again.
Eventually, on one of your ‘dates’ or phone calls, you will discuss the possibility of getting back into a relationship. This is the time to tell your ex that you would love to get back together with them; however, they have some work of their own to do. Tell them that you now realize what the issues were in the relationship and that you don’t want to get back into the same relationship you were in before. This time, you want the relationship to work, and you have done your part to make sure that it does by working on your issues.
Remember, you are not accusing your ex of having issues; instead, you are stating the past relationship had issues caused by both of you, and if you do not fix those issues, then you relationship will likely end in break up again, which you do not want.
Tell your ex how you changed and what worked for you, and then let your ex figure out whatever they need to figure out. Be there for them, but let them do the work on their own. The only way to improve is to have breakthroughs about yourself, and your ex needs to do that alone.
In the end, by taking some time to fix the issues you had in the relationship, you will be able to get back your ex and have a relationship that lasts the test of time. You will have a healthier, stronger bond, and the issues of the past will stay in the past.
The Tricks To a Strong Comeback
The simplest way to get your ex back is to adopt a step by step way of doing things. Simply put, you need to look within and ask yourself several questions. Do you really want him back? Was your past relationship healthy? Do you want him/her just because you can’t have him? Do you think that you’re the one who should apologize? These and other questions will for sure help you to initiate a strong comeback.
Remember, you want to work towards a stronger bond and move past the issues that set you apart. At the same time you want to retain your dignity while not appearing too needy or desperate. Again, it’s not wise to be weepy or sappy.
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